Sunday, February 27, 2011

I am heartbroken

As is my custom, this morning when the kids went down for their nap, I quickly made breakfast and came to check my email.

I had an email from a very close friend of mine in the US. We've been friends for 5 years now and we chat about 48 out of 52 weeks a year as she's my accountability partner and a fellow coach.

Her son's been murdered.

Murdered!

I'm (sadly) kind of used to these senseless acts of violence happening in my country but not in the US.

Obviously she didn't say much but just wanted me to know.

I sat STUNNED and then TEARY and then PARALYSED.

What do you say?

How do you even answer an email like that?

I'm sure everything I said on email and FB sounded trite.

He was only 18 and another 18-year-old is suspected.

I googled it to read up and then regreted doing so. I can't stop thinking of how he died and how his body was discovered in the snow.

Just terrible.

I honestly can't imagine what my friend is going through. I've offered her my ear (when she's ready - she said she's not ready to talk yet), help with her business - blogging, clients, etc, anything???? but nothing will really help, I know that.

They're a very close family - how you dream a family will be, always doing things together, even though they're teenagers.

I've been giving my son extra cuddles, hugs and kisses the whole day, every time with tears in my eyes.

If you pray, please pray for them.

15 comments:

  1. Oh no...that is beyond devastating. I will be praying for your friend and her family. Thinking of you all...

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  2. Heartbreaking...sending big {{hugs}}

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  3. How horrible and sad. My condolences to your friend and you.

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  4. Can't even imagine! Many prayers and thoughts sent that families way! As for advise on how to handle as a friend.... I have none. I am with you on NO words can help. I think you dd good by saying whenever she I ready you are there and until then you thoughts are with her! Bless ther hearts! So senseless!

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  5. Oh no...that is so sad. I'm sure just knowing you were there to read and answer her email gave her a little bit of solace.

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  6. How horrible. So very heartbreaking. My condolences to your friend and her family. Thinking of you too.
    xxxx

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  7. So sad. She must be devastated. My prayers are with their family.

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  8. How horrific. I know there's nothing you feel like you can say, but I'm sure she appreciates - at least on some level - knowing you are there.

    I think all the time how things strike me differently since I became a mother, and I don't think I've had anything this terrible happen so close to my "circle". I can only imagine it's bone-jarring for you, too.

    Praying for strength..

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  9. This is so so sad. We also had devastating news yesterday...a dear friend's mother has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Life is so precious...

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  10. Sorry to hear about this.
    May her baby rest in peace. (I wish I never have to say those to any mom again..)

    Praying for your friend and her family.

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  11. OMG that is horrible, I will definitely keep them in my thoughts!

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  12. It is horrible, and unfortunately there is virtually nothing you can do but offer yourself to her. This is something that should never happen but unfortunately happens more and more. It happens everywhere, all the time.
    It really makes you stop and think, to reorganize your priorities, to make your family first.

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  13. There's nothing you can say. It's only recently, more than two years later, that I started reading the condolence emails etc that I got after my dad's murder.

    The most important thing is to use the skills you learn from infertility, to be sensitive. Don't say things like - you will get over this. She will never get over this. Tell her that you love her and you'll always be there for her, and then wait quietly in the background until she is ready to talk.

    Hugs to you and her.

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  14. Oh no! I will certainly put them on the prayers list my friend.

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