NatDon't feel bad if you're a friend and you don't see your pic - I have very few pics of friends who read the blog!!!
With the whole Facebook/ Twitter/ blog thing, my definition of friends has broadened a lot.
Except for Twitter because I still hate it.
I said to my boss the other day about a girl who used to work at our company, "we're Facebook friends and lunch friends" meaning we chat on Facebook a bit and now and again, like once every 9 months or so (sadly, because we were good work friends before she left), we have lunch.
I have friends I used to go to school with, friends from university, friends from each place I worked at, friends from church, a friend from the NICU, friends from the infertility group and of course, you, my blog friends.
I'm not unobservant so I noticed how people's eyes narrowed in suspicion when I first mentioned the phrase blog friends so now I say, "my friend in Kentucky" or "my friend in Cape Town".
My definition of friends has widened and yet, in some ways it has stayed the same.
I have always been about reciprocity, connection and about quality of relationship.
There's not much of a difference (for me) whether I see you in person or whether we email, but rather in how we connect.
There are some real life friends that I know squat about because they don't share anything with me but the stuff everybody can see on Facebook and then there are some blog friends who I really get because I know you so well, either through your blogs or... my favourite, through the back and forth emails after the comment is posted, either by me or by you. Love it!
I think this may be because I value connection.
I say things like "oh, I know her through __________" or "we have a friend in common" or "I used to work with her at X-company" or "we used to be close like this but now we just chat on Facebook".
What do you think?
Do you see all your friends as the same, or do you make subtle distinctions and what are those distinctions based on?
PS Remember my preferred way of engaging is ALWAYS face to face over a coffee/ lunch. But since we can't do that here, let's just pretend we're talking heart to heart.
Just as I was about to click publish, I had a funny feeling so I checked back and see I wrote a post like this 18 months ago. It's here if you feel like reading it.