I was working on a very interesting project at work last year.
We'd done lots of research and in my team, we're usually the most passionate about any given business idea but we also wanted to brainstorm our thoughts with some more level-headed people :)
So a colleague and I met with this girl.
We had our meeting and it was great. We all got along very well and that was that.
Well, I ran into her a couple of times (you know how you suddenly start seeing people everywhere once you've met them?) and each time we have a really, really good chat.
She and I also share similar hippy parenting beliefs. By hippy I mean "delay pre-school as long as you can". I've mentioned this before but it's rare in South Africa to not have kids in school at this "late age".
Last Friday I had a LOVELY long chat to her again and as we said our good-byes, I suddenly thought, "I really like her and would like to be her friend".
Normally I'd be the first to say, "we should do lunch" and actually send an email the minute I was back at my desk.
I think I'm a little gun-shy after the friend dumping.
I haven't opened myself up to being hurt since that happened earlier this year.
And to be honest, I start questioning whether my radar is off. I generally know when people aren't into me - it's not hard to see as I'm a "what you see is what you get" person so you either like what you see or you don't.
I am not changing so I know I'm not for everyone :) (as Dr Phil once said)
So when my radar says one thing and things happen that are the exact opposite of that feeling, I understandably freak out. Yes.
It's like I can't trust my instincts anymore.
Back to this girl.
I realised I'm scared of being rejected.
However, I also decided after I exercised some courage with the Gautrain last month that I need to do one act of courage every month. To keep my courage muscles toned :)
I need to, if I'm going to reach my friend-dating goals.
So here's the deal.
I will invite her out for lunch and I'll come back and tell you what happened next week.
BUT I'm also challenging you.
As an aside, when Rachel threw out a challenge on her blog last year, I actually invited someone out to supper!
Right. So either
- invite a new person to do something - anything (gym, coffee, supper, cake) - to further your friendship OR
- tone your courage muscles in the area of friendship (have a tough conversation, do a random act of kindness, etc)
Are you up for it?
Tell me in the comments what you're going to do.
PS tomorrow I'm meeting 3 people in the computer - 1 I've never met, 1 I've met once and the other I've met 3 times and we have a pending date. Can you guess who? :)