We took a drive to look at the lights and the kids saw the Elton John CD set I'd brought in so wanted to hear it. Of course I played my 3 "Friday" favourites - Honky Cat, B-B-B-Bennie and the Jets :) and Philadelphia Freedom.
Kendra (of Honky Cat) Mummy, this is a silly song :)
Connor (at the end of the 3) Mummy, I like Elton John.
(I melt! I also think they like that I get silly while I sing :))
My work auctioned off some furniture and surprisingly, I won 6 of my 8 bids. So I have a lovely new office chair. It is divine (yes, I'll take pics).
I also have to arrange transport for my other stuff - woohoo!
In other work news, I'm trying to matchmake...I hope it works out :)
Last night we had our Infertility support group Christmas party.
The group's already been going for 5.5 years - can you believe it?
I never quite feel like it's Christmas until that party. Maybe it's because I rush and do the first presents and cards for that event which puts me in the mood for the rest of it?
1. Anyway, are all your friends more or less in the same boat as you are? Or are you better or worse off than they are?
This topic was sent in by a reader who is going through infertility treatments at the moment and... all her friends are having babies left, right and centre/ no trouble falling pregnant, etc.
I was there so I understand.
The worse is these very same friends are asking her to do a lot of baby-related stuff (come shopping for maternity clothes, baby clothes, etc). I don't think they know so it's not fair to assume they're being insensitive. Still.
The thing is this is good news... it's just hard to be happy for someone when you want that thing so very badly.
2. There was a dear someone there last night too who has had a horrendous time trying to fall pregnant. And now her little brother's wife, just married, fell pregnant on honeymoon and has had this so easy when she's spent a fortune trying to get the same thing.
It's terrible, isn't it?
Same story here - she should feel happy, is happy for them at least intellectually I know, but it hurts.
And then there's the age-old problem when everyone's working hard but your friend gets the promotions, the new job, etc. You're also awesome so why does it seem like things just come easier to others?
|I've been thinking about the two Mandys a lot this week :)|
3. There was a lady who started her coaching business the exact same month as I did. We were on par for awhile but then she got super "famous" and I didn't. We were Facebook acquaintances and on the same forums but nothing more so it was easy for me to pull back a little without her even noticing but I will admit I was jealous for awhile. And then I realised our situations are different and she clearly is 10 times more motivated to make money.
4. I have another real life friend who was kind of the same as I was in terms of business but then she also started to really take off. I pulled back because that thread of connection is thinner. So now I never raise issues of business unless she brings it up first.
That's how I'm dealing with it.
Interestingly enough, I almost have no problems if people do better than me financially (maybe because I've always been the lowest earner in a group or at least one of the lowest earners). I think I'm more aware in that sphere that I tithe and I'm well aware of God's provision (financial, emotional, protection, etc) and I am just so grateful that I really can't ever complain.
What about you?
How do you deal with it when your friends do better than you do?