Guys, it feels like forever since we've chatted even though it's not even been a week!
Ha - my standards are low these days.
Anyway, I want to talk about comparison.
This has come up 4 times for me recently:
1. Our podcast club had this come up as a question on our parenting, like do you compare yourself with other mothers in your parenting?
Both of us said no. Great!
Do you compare yourself in that way? How?
2. Then, I listened to this podcast and this guest said her reading had started to feel competitive because of Instagram. Like you start judging the books you read - are they cool enough, literary enough, up to date enough?
I get that. I don't care what Instagram followers think but I realised that I actually don't listen to that very podcast because I compare myself to those guests and feel like my reading is not literary enough.
Then I started listening again.
3. Design Mom linked to this post where he talks about the way to be happier.
Do you know what that is?
To think like a bronze medalist and not like the silver one. The thinking is that when you're the silver medalist you compare up, and say "oh, I missed the gold. I should have been faster" but when you're the bronze medalist, you compare down so you're grateful to place 3rd.
I, of course, thought of instagram, which is the gold medal. Everything is perfect and all are in the top 1% of experiences - perfect holidays, houses, clothes, families, etc.
We look at that perfection and we're unhappy because we don't have that - or maybe you have.
What we should do is think about all the things we do have that others don't. Some people don't even have houses, families, jobs, money for new clothes, etc.
It all comes down to perspective but it's a great reminder.
4. And then this post.
This post says that basically we're confident until we compare. That's also true.
We've all had instances where we were quite happy with a situation and then we found out more information (someone else's salary, job title, what they drive, etc.) and then suddenly we're unhappy with our lot.
Tell me what you think.
Do you battle with comparison?