Comments on 1, 2, 3, blog: Do you find it more difficult to make friends the ...

Yes and No. Yes and No. Yes, because of time c...

2012-01-25T13:01:53.779+02:00

Yes and No.
Yes and No.

Yes, because of time constraints.

Yes because I’m not naturally extroverted. I love people and get my energy from them but I don’t sommer just walk up to people and say “lets be friends” or whatever. I still can’t do that, even in my 30s.

No because I am more tolerant and accepting of people who are “different” than I was

I just finished that book and LOVED it. I totally...

2012-01-18T20:05:14.153+02:00

I just finished that book and LOVED it. I totally agree with you that it does get harder to make friends as you get older.

When you're younger, the littlest things can bring you together and as children, we're much more accepting of others, I believe.

Adults can be judgmental and harsh when it comes to choosing friends.

I'm in the process of writing

Oh my yes it totally gets harder with each passing...

2012-01-18T18:04:03.603+02:00

Oh my yes it totally gets harder with each passing year. Being military doesn't help either since everyone is so transient.

I have written a lot about friendship over the las...

2012-01-18T15:58:54.457+02:00

I have written a lot about friendship over the last year or so - and I think you know what I am on about. Making a friend is relatively easy - on a shallow sort of level. Making a good friend is extremely tough - I really find it so hard. Friendship needs to grow through years.

BTW my BFF is in Sa at present - have seen her twice - it is as if she never left. Ai, to think at the end of

I think I lost most of my "friends" grow...

2012-01-17T21:51:37.936+02:00

I think I lost most of my "friends" growing up. I grew up young and I grew up fast. In fact, nearly all the people I was friends with are still single and ready to mingle. Many still live with, or rely on their parents which I find disgusting. We just don't click anymore. :(

arg. i think you know how i feel about this! i...

2012-01-17T21:10:01.919+02:00

arg. i think you know how i feel about this! i've always been very guarded and shy with new people. we had a few VERY close couples: one ended up divorced, two moved away for jobs. we still have two couple friends that we enjoy spending time with who live locally, BUT making time to do something is really hard. especially because of travel schedules right now!!

i also don'

This is not the case for me. I find I am CONSTANTL...

2012-01-17T19:39:27.427+02:00

This is not the case for me. I find I am CONSTANTLY making new friends and connections through my kids and through mutual friends.

I do have a handful of VERY close confidants and then a large circle of friends and then a larger circle of acquaintenances.

I think as a youngster I had fewer friends, more cliquey in my youth whereas now I am able to embrace friendships with a

I was very shy as a child, so I think for me it...

2012-01-17T19:35:49.146+02:00

I was very shy as a child, so I think for me it's been easier as I got older. Plus, my DH is a very social creature and loves to have friends that have parties sometimes and likes to mingle with people we don't already know. We've met a lot of interesting people over the years. I still can't wait to finally meet you!!!!

YES, I think it is harder to make friends (and I m...

2012-01-17T18:24:06.223+02:00

YES, I think it is harder to make friends (and I mean real friends, not friendly acquaintances) as we get older. For one, the places and times to meet new people become very limited. We go to work, church, etc., but we tend to see a lot of the same people on a daily basis. And unless you find friends among those people, other options to connect are limited, at least in my experience.

YES! It is so much harder the older we get! I thin...

2012-01-17T17:48:29.203+02:00

YES! It is so much harder the older we get! I think there are a few reasons for me personally.

First of all- people I could be friends with- but we have a business relationship with makes being "friends" that hang out and do things together because I do not like to cross the lines between business and pleasure. So for example- one of the moms I babysit for- I could see us

In short: yes. And one big reason: time.

2012-01-17T15:04:55.393+02:00

In short: yes. And one big reason: time.

I'm not having that problem. It is a lot harde...

2012-01-17T12:23:32.622+02:00

I'm not having that problem. It is a lot harder for me these days to put the effort in to maintain good frienships though.

I don't make friends easily but value my frien...

2012-01-17T08:32:42.441+02:00

I don't make friends easily but value my friendships that I do have tremendously. It is only recently that I have started to push all the one sided friends out of my life, why waste time on them if the work is only coming from me? I have to honestly say that, although I do not have a bucketload of friends, the ones I do have all have a special place in my heart :)

Since moving to CT and leaving my friends in Pta, ...

2012-01-17T08:11:56.538+02:00

Since moving to CT and leaving my friends in Pta, I have not made a single new friend...shocking isnt it. I spent most of my time with hubby's family or at home. So in essence my answer is yes I find it difficult to make new friends now that I am older.

Hi, it's been so long! For me, i find people ...

2012-01-17T07:27:58.143+02:00

Hi, it's been so long! For me, i find people that I would love to be friends with (you are one) but I'm so busy at this stage of my life with young children that are totally dependant on me and keep me flat out busy ALL THE TIME that I have much less time to spend establishing friendships. And much less time seeing/contacting each friend. I believe that is the only difference to when i

My husband and I work in youth ministry, we realiz...

2012-01-17T06:36:17.288+02:00

My husband and I work in youth ministry, we realized a couple of years ago that we had no friends our own age - since most of our time is spent with teenagers. We knew we needed to connect with adults. We are blessed with an awesome church and just had to start putting ourselves out there and were intentional with connecting with adults as well as teenagers. Anyway, we now have friends our own

Hi Marcia, I think that in today's society it ...

2012-01-17T04:24:21.545+02:00

Hi Marcia, I think that in today's society it is harder to make and maintain good friendships. No sooner do you connect with someone you think will make an excellent friend than they or you move on to a new job, new town. When we were young we lived in the same place for years and made lots of friends but when we grew up we all moved away. I have a few great friends and I am grateful for

Yes. People don't stay put anymore so even whe...

2012-01-17T02:22:17.931+02:00

Yes. People don't stay put anymore so even when you do make friends, you or they move on before long. The good news is that when you have children you find yourself thrown into new situations with other parents and often form a natural bond.

HI!! THANKS for visiting my CHAOS!!! We moved fr...

2012-01-16T23:53:40.951+02:00

HI!! THANKS for visiting my CHAOS!!! We moved from Houston to Oklahoma and I have been miserable for 7 years!! I DESPERATELY need a BFF!! Todd goes to work and I just want someone to pal around with!!!
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Mandy, LOL they are way too small for you to worry...

2012-01-16T22:12:35.921+02:00

Mandy, LOL they are way too small for you to worry about them becoming hermits!

I love how you remember my little sayings (3am friends) - it thrills me to no end (sad, I know)

so what happened with the friends you lost?

Lea, awesome that you've found those 2 friends...

2012-01-16T22:12:08.569+02:00

Lea, awesome that you've found those 2 friends! The time to connect is a real problem as we get married and have kids and whatnot!!!

Sweets, I love your comment! You are fabulous fo...

2012-01-16T22:11:00.790+02:00

Sweets, I love your comment!

You are fabulous for admitting you fear not being accepted.

But listen, why don't you send round an email and ask if any of those fertility people want to meet for a coffee? Or only the ones you kind of gelled with the most?

I think it depends on personality. Some people te...

2012-01-16T21:56:56.228+02:00

I think it depends on personality. Some people tend to attract more people to them than others. I've never found it easy to make friends. Not even when I was younger. However recently I have made 2 really good friends. Like in "best friends" kind of friends.

I think when we are younger it is easier to find things you have in common with others, but when you are older

As you already know I think it gets harder. Just ...

2012-01-16T21:53:16.052+02:00

As you already know I think it gets harder. Just been thinking that it really should be easier - afterall aren't we supposed to become more "wise" and comfortable with ourselves as we get older? I still find making connections through common interest the easiest, but have found that these don't necessarily grow beyond that, or translate into a real bff outside of those "

I think I've actually lost all my friends. How...

2012-01-16T21:46:30.186+02:00

I think I've actually lost all my friends. How terrible is that?! Although it's true to me being a hermit.

I have roughly 3 that I can pick up with at any time, only 1 being a '3 a.m. friend' and another is my cousin so that complicates things a bit. I have another 4 a work that are more than co-workers but less than friends. So I would have to agree that is nearly